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Saturday, October 25, 2014
Friday, October 24, 2014
How do you manage your environment to Make You Successful?
From Dr David Schwartz! The Magic of thinking Big.
- Be environment-conscious. Just as body diet makes the body, mind diet makes the mind.
- Make your environment work for you, not against you. Don't let suppressive forces-----the negative, you-can't-do-it people make you think defeat.
- Don't let small-thinking people hold you back. Jealous people want to see you stumble. Don't give them that satisfaction.
- Get your advice from successful people. Your future is important. Never risk it with freelance advisers who are living failures.
- Get plenty of psychological sunshine. Circulate in new groups. Discover new and stimulating things to do.
- Throw thought poison out of your environment. Avoid Gossip. Talk about people, but stay on the positive side.
- Go first class in everything you do. You can't afford to go any other way.
Friday, October 10, 2014
Only You can stop You
We've studied for years the many people who have achieved tremendous things in life, and on thing I find common to them all is the audacity to follow their own inner voice. If you think about it, much of our unhappiness comes from wrong turns and calamitous dead-ends that result from us not really knowing our purpose.
Lou Holtz once said; "Decisions are only difficult if you don't know what your purpose is." Stated another way , I might say it like this: " Unhappiness and a lack of fulfillment may result from not knowing what your purpose is." Not to mention the squandering of talents, wasting time, and loss of opportunity.
So Listen to that inner voice. Follow your passions and hide not your light under a bushel. You were built for a purpose. When it comes down to it, you are the only one who can stop you.
From the "LIFE Book."
Lou Holtz once said; "Decisions are only difficult if you don't know what your purpose is." Stated another way , I might say it like this: " Unhappiness and a lack of fulfillment may result from not knowing what your purpose is." Not to mention the squandering of talents, wasting time, and loss of opportunity.
So Listen to that inner voice. Follow your passions and hide not your light under a bushel. You were built for a purpose. When it comes down to it, you are the only one who can stop you.
From the "LIFE Book."
- Success requires a time of sacrifice for a period; failure requires a lifetime of sacrifice- period."
Friday, October 3, 2014
Which one are you??
1) Give them the benefit of the doubt, or
2) Assign a motive to their behavior?
Your answer to this question, I believe, has a lot to do with whether or not people consider you to be "nice" or otherwise.
"That jerk did that on purpose!" you might say or think. "He did this, which means that, and he knew darn well that...."or "He should have done this if he wanted me to..." or "I know what he really meant by that," and the list of examples goes on.
Some of the "nicest" people I know, who have therefore become great friends of mine, are people that seem to usually choose response number 1). They are slow to assign illicit motive to the behavior of others; they demonstrate a level of patience with other people's actions; and they are slow to pass judgment. Others, with whom I have sometimes temporarily been in association, seem to predominately choose response 2), in which they automatically assign motives and reasons to the behavior of others, rarely, if ever, are these motives positive. It is as if they think they have an incredibly acute clairvoyance, which allows them to both clearly understand the reasons for another person's behavior (when that person may not even understand his behavior much himself!) and to draw conclusions from that behavior which reflect wider consequences. "He's doing that because blah blah blah, and that con only mean he thinks blah blah blah."
Our society is actually quite genteel. It is difficult to get away with behavior that is too rude or openly obnoxious. Therefore, many people have learned to shield these "motive assigning" thoughts a little bit. They appear kind and gentle on the outside, but inside they are world-class motive assigners. This leads to passive aggressive behavior, pouting, moping, broken lines of communication, the carrying of grudges, and a whole host of other childish behaviors. Sadly, in the end, they mostly hurt themselves. Their lives are a long, sorry tale of broken relationships and fractured friendships. As the saying goes, bitterness is a poison pill one ingests while hoping to hurt the other person.
The benefit of the doubters, on the other hand, are disarming. The more you hang around them the more comfortable you feel. You become less and less self-conscious, less afraid of being authentic, and less fearful of making mistakes. You begin to realize that even if you do mess up, you will likely be given the benefit of the doubt and everything will be okay anyway. As a matter of fact, when you dig deep enough into the thought process of a benefit-of-the-doubter, you realize that they assign motives, too. It's just that they tend to assign positive ones to you instead of negative ones! Talk about "nice!" Who wouldn't want to hang around someone who was quick to think the best of us as a knee-jerk reaction to any of our actions?
As you consider these two types of people, I imagine you've already had names pop into your head of those who fit each of the categories. I know, it's hard not to do. But classifying people that way is almost as bad as assigning impure motives to their behavior! So stop it (and I will try to stop, as well!). Instead, take the constructive side of this message and analyze your own behavior. Are you a motive-assigner or a benefit-of -the -doubter? What would your five closest friends and/ or family members have to say about you?
It's worth considering. And if you don't like the answer you get back about yourself, change!
If you don;t? Well, it simply means that you are a lousy no'good loser that assigns motives to people because you've got an axe to grind with a chip on your shoulder about that one time you asked me.. aw, never mind. I know why you did what you did, and I'm not speaking to you anymore.
By; Chris Brady.
2) Assign a motive to their behavior?
Your answer to this question, I believe, has a lot to do with whether or not people consider you to be "nice" or otherwise.
"That jerk did that on purpose!" you might say or think. "He did this, which means that, and he knew darn well that...."or "He should have done this if he wanted me to..." or "I know what he really meant by that," and the list of examples goes on.
Some of the "nicest" people I know, who have therefore become great friends of mine, are people that seem to usually choose response number 1). They are slow to assign illicit motive to the behavior of others; they demonstrate a level of patience with other people's actions; and they are slow to pass judgment. Others, with whom I have sometimes temporarily been in association, seem to predominately choose response 2), in which they automatically assign motives and reasons to the behavior of others, rarely, if ever, are these motives positive. It is as if they think they have an incredibly acute clairvoyance, which allows them to both clearly understand the reasons for another person's behavior (when that person may not even understand his behavior much himself!) and to draw conclusions from that behavior which reflect wider consequences. "He's doing that because blah blah blah, and that con only mean he thinks blah blah blah."
Our society is actually quite genteel. It is difficult to get away with behavior that is too rude or openly obnoxious. Therefore, many people have learned to shield these "motive assigning" thoughts a little bit. They appear kind and gentle on the outside, but inside they are world-class motive assigners. This leads to passive aggressive behavior, pouting, moping, broken lines of communication, the carrying of grudges, and a whole host of other childish behaviors. Sadly, in the end, they mostly hurt themselves. Their lives are a long, sorry tale of broken relationships and fractured friendships. As the saying goes, bitterness is a poison pill one ingests while hoping to hurt the other person.
The benefit of the doubters, on the other hand, are disarming. The more you hang around them the more comfortable you feel. You become less and less self-conscious, less afraid of being authentic, and less fearful of making mistakes. You begin to realize that even if you do mess up, you will likely be given the benefit of the doubt and everything will be okay anyway. As a matter of fact, when you dig deep enough into the thought process of a benefit-of-the-doubter, you realize that they assign motives, too. It's just that they tend to assign positive ones to you instead of negative ones! Talk about "nice!" Who wouldn't want to hang around someone who was quick to think the best of us as a knee-jerk reaction to any of our actions?
As you consider these two types of people, I imagine you've already had names pop into your head of those who fit each of the categories. I know, it's hard not to do. But classifying people that way is almost as bad as assigning impure motives to their behavior! So stop it (and I will try to stop, as well!). Instead, take the constructive side of this message and analyze your own behavior. Are you a motive-assigner or a benefit-of -the -doubter? What would your five closest friends and/ or family members have to say about you?
It's worth considering. And if you don't like the answer you get back about yourself, change!
If you don;t? Well, it simply means that you are a lousy no'good loser that assigns motives to people because you've got an axe to grind with a chip on your shoulder about that one time you asked me.. aw, never mind. I know why you did what you did, and I'm not speaking to you anymore.
By; Chris Brady.
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